3 Ways To Get Your Facebook Friend Request Accepted

facebook friend request

friend requestHave you sent a Facebook friend request lately? I’m sure you have and you did as a means of extending your network.  You probably did a search looking for people who you would like to connect with – people who are in the same industry as you, perhaps those who share interests with you or maybe people who might be looking for something that you have. In any case, when you see someone that resonates with you, most times you’ll send a friend request.  

Now, before I go any further, here’s my disclaimer: If you have already positioned yourself or are positioning yourself as a leader, you aren’t sending friend requests. Instead, you are inviting others to send you the request. That’s just another way of you posturing yourself as the leader you are or are striving to be! 

3 Ways to Get Your Facebook Friend Request Accepted

As I review my own Facebook friend request list, I see three things that may cause me to delete the request.  When I receive a friend request, the first thing I do is to go onto that person’s profile to see who he/she is. I’m interested in knowing about someone who’s interested in knowing me. Then I look at the activity. Finally, I look at the content. 

The Profile Picture

best profile picturesA profile picture that reflects the person is critical in getting someone to accept your request. You can learn a lot from a person’s picture such as: they look friendly, honest, professional. By the same token, do they look suspect, unprofessional and unkempt? You’d be surprised at how little attention some people put into choosing the most appropriate picture of themselves to make that very important first impression.

A picture can resonate with you and you can feel an immediate connection with someone just by a picture. With that being said, you want to refrain from choosing pictures of your pet, a car or business logo. They reveal nothing about you. The best profile pictures are HD clear, taken from your shoulders up and show a smile. 

When the profile picture is not of the person, it can send a message that you are hiding yourself or for some reason, don’t want to be seen. If you are a possible future business partner or customer, you should not be wary of showing your face. Business is about being transparent and I may hesitate to accept that request.

The Activity

building a relationshipIn reviewing another one of my friend requests, I took note of the latest post on the person’s timeline. It was dated in August. That was three months ago! This shows that the person is not active on Facebook. If there is no activity, how can we be friends?

I also look to see who’s interacting with them. Are their posts getting likes and comments and maybe even some shares? Activity is important on a page because it shows that you are attracting people to you and this makes you visible in the marketplace.

My intention when accepting a friend request is getting to know the person, having periodic conversations and building a relationship. If the person is not active, this cannot happen.

The Content

content writingWhen I look at the content the person is posting, I’m expecting to see value. Something that lets me know that this person is a leader, sharing information that can help me or even help my audience. However, in many cases, I see a variety of posts all leading back to the company.  

For example, products and services, calls to join the opportunity, congrats to team members, company images, pictures of the team having dinner and drinks, perhaps at their convention. None of these posts are of interest to me and won’t be to anyone else. People want to engage on your page. They want to like, comment and share the value they find on your page. But if they find post after post about your company, they won’t engage. These posts are not relevant to them. This is not purposeful content writing.

Company-heavy profiles repel because people are not looking for your company, products or services. They’re looking to see what you have to offer, what value you provide. They’re looking to see what you’re about and what you stand for. If your profile doesn’t reflect this, no one will have interest in it.

Facebook Friend Request Denied

So if you have been sending friend requests that haven’t been accepted, these are some possible reasons why.

Remember, people are looking to connect with people, not companies, not products or services and not opportunities. If you continue to showcase only that, the result will be ==> friend request denied.

Next Steps

profile pictureIf you’re one sending the friend request, you can review the above and make adjustments to your profile. Once done, you can go ahead and confidently send your friend requests. Remember to preface your requests with a private message to introduce yourself and telling why you’re sending the request. 

As a reminder, even after you make your adjustments, not everyone will accept the request and be prepared for that. There may other personal reasons they won’t and that’s okay. 

If you’re the one who was sent the request, you can review the above and look for areas where the person may need help in creating a more purposeful profile. You can accept and offer your assistance. Another way to provide value – help and serve. 

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Theresa Lovelace     

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  1. Chris Shouse
    Chris Shouse
    November 21, 2016 at 12:31 am

    Excellent post-Theresa. Building relationships are imperative to have people to give value to. To get to know someone and maybe even forge a new friendship. What is on your wall and your picture are also very important.

    • Theresa Lovelace
      Theresa Lovelace
      November 21, 2016 at 12:43 am

      Of course I agree with that, Chris. Always glad to read your comments! 🙂

  2. Demetri Benton
    Demetri Benton
    November 23, 2016 at 3:45 pm

    I do the same thing Theresa, I check out the profile before I accept the friend request. There are a lot of spammy/fake profiles out there so you gotta be careful who’s request you accept. Thanks for the great tips!

    • Theresa Lovelace
      Theresa Lovelace
      November 24, 2016 at 9:23 am

      You’re welcome, Demitri…we have to be selective and also look for those who are a good fit for us! 🙂

  3. Mike
    November 24, 2016 at 8:54 am

    These are three great tips that people must follow. You also gave a wonderful run down on they the tips you provide are important. Really good post.

    • Theresa Lovelace
      Theresa Lovelace
      November 24, 2016 at 9:22 am

      Thank you, Mike. I’m so glad you got some value! 🙂

  4. Judith Moor
    Judith Moor
    November 26, 2016 at 1:12 pm

    You are absolutely right. When I see a friend request, the first thing I look at is the profile and posts to see how active the person is on Facebook and what they do. Do their posts breed negativity? If so, then I simply delete. Fantastic points you have here Theresa. Thank you for sharing.

    • Theresa Lovelace
      Theresa Lovelace
      November 26, 2016 at 5:27 pm

      Thank you Judith…so important to be vigilant with whom we connect with! Glad you got some value! 🙂

  5. Tommy Olsson
    Tommy Olsson
    November 26, 2016 at 1:13 pm

    Very good advice,yes its always a good idea to have a look at a persons profile before approving his or hers friend request.

    • Theresa Lovelace
      Theresa Lovelace
      November 26, 2016 at 5:28 pm

      Thank you Tommie. Everyone is not for us so we have to investigate. 🙂

  6. Keith Everett
    Keith Everett
    November 28, 2016 at 6:35 am

    Those are some great tips on getting your friend request accepted. It never ceases to amaze me how people put pictures of a car, a flowerpot or even a chicken as a profile picture, it is after all “social Media”

    • Theresa Lovelace
      Theresa Lovelace
      November 28, 2016 at 9:00 am

      So true, Keith. Hopefully, the right people will read this and make the important changes. 🙂

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